How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs in 4 Simple Steps

How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs in 4 Simple Steps

This week, I experienced a bit of a downer moment.

I was living my typical daily routine when my head decided to fill itself with an encyclopedia of negative thoughts:

“Maybe I’m not smart enough to be successful”

“I’m not cut out for this kind of thing”

“What if no one likes my style?

“What if I fail?”

“Hang on a sec, easy there Tiger!” I began to think.

Easy there tiger meme

My mind had spiralled so far ahead of where it needed to be and by giving attention to these limiting beliefs, I was letting myself be pulled down for no particular reason.

What the?

The thing is, limiting beliefs are TOXIC.

Yet, they are something many of us struggle with each and every day.

And, as the name suggests, they limit us from achieving your true potential and goals.

“I can’t do this.” “No one will like me.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I’m not pretty enough.”

“I’ll never get a boyfriend” “I don’t deserve to be loved.” “I must work hard for money.”

Thinking like this is super toxic….

Not only for you but for everyone else around you too.

We need to change our mindset and train ourselves to recognise and overcome these limiting beliefs.

That’s exactly what I’m going to explain in this article. 

 

Change Your Beliefs – Change Your Life

Most of the negative thoughts and beliefs that infest our minds are triggered by our brain trying to protect us.

Trying to prevent us from confronting our fears and stepping outside of our comfort zones.

But, if you want to be successful you must stop these beliefs from influencing how you live your life.

It’s time for a change.

No more self-sabotage!

Why You Need to Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs

Many of the beliefs that we’ve been holding on to throughout our lives were imprinted on us from a very young age relative to who/what:

  • We grew up with
  • We’ve surrounded ourselves with
  • People have said about us in the past

And, once installed these beliefs become difficult to change, especially for those who are completely unaware of them.

P.S>> If you’re more of a video person, you can watch the video below as an alternative to reading through this entire article. 

Note: In the video above, the part of the brain that stops us from stepping out of our comfort zones and taking risks is the Amygdala, not the Hypothalums/Hippocampus. My mind went blank at the time – so there you go! 

Confirmation Bias

Without knowing, we all select, filter and mould sensory information to fit in with our position, opinions and the way we want to see the world.

But in many cases, what we think we see, is not necessarily how it really is.

We choose to ignore other information that doesn’t confirm what we believe, called Confirmation Bias.

This is why if you ask someone about their perspective on a certain polarising topic or event, let’s use Climate Change as an example, you’ll get the avid:

  1. Believers who have found every possible resource supporting evidence for their argument, and
  2. Non-believers who have also found every possible source to support their opinions

In this instance, few people will actively seek out content that supports the “other side”. This is because doing so, can lead to cognitive dissonance.

Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive Dissonance relates to the mental discomfort (psychological stress) felt when someone simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. And our brain hate’s this feeling!

Therefore, we avoid it like a disease and without even being aware that we’re doing it.

It’s pretty trippy actually!

But now that you’re here, it’s time to let go of some of those old beliefs and you can do that by following the steps below.

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4 Steps to Help You Overcome Limiting Beliefs

Your beliefs shape your life.

What you think and perceive affects how you behave, which in turn affects how you perform towards others around you.

When not managed effectively, your belief prism can become your own personal prison and demise.

This is why it is so important to take charge and confront them.

You must go into battle….with yourself.

 

Step 1: Identify

The first step is to IDENTIFY what limiting beliefs you have about yourself, other people, your surrounding environment and your ability to achieve your goals.

Which of these beliefs need to be challenged and uprooted in order to achieve your goals?

As an example, do you believe that you:

  • Have to work hard for money?
  • Don’t deserve love?
  • You’re ugly?
  • You’ll never lose weight?
  • You’re unworthy?

By taking a moment to identify what is going on in your mind, you can now take action towards uprooting these beliefs and making a real impact and change to your life.

 

Step 2: Decide

It’s time to decide that you’re not going to believe something anymore.

In this step, we draw a line in the sand (metaphorically) and take a stand that from now on, this is it.

You’re not going to believe those things about yourself anymore.

You can do this and you are just as worthy as anyone else to achieve your goals.

 

Step 3: Immerse Yourself

Your next step is to start bombarding your conscious and subconscious mind with new and more empowering beliefs.

There are three ways you can do this:

  1. You can flip your negative belief into a positive affirmation (Ie. Think a 180 degree shift)
  2. Make up a new belief that supports the vision of the person you want to be
  3. Consume your mind with positive resources and information (Eg. podcasts, personal development, etc)
  4. Meditate regularly to slow down and observe your thoughts.

On paper these strategies may sound really simple.

BUT, uprooting old limiting beliefs that have been ingrained into your brain for years, can be challenging. 

It can take lot of accountability and self-discipline.

I teach more about overcoming limiting beliefs and the powers of mindfulness and meditation in the Mindfully Happy Handbook.

In this ebook, I equip you with the techniques you need to overcome limiting beliefs on your own. I’ll talk more about it at the end of this article.

Consume yourself with positive vibes

Step 4: ACT

  • Take a leap of faith by stepping out of your comfort zone.
  • Start doing the things you’re afraid of.
  • Review the people you hang out with.

Did you know? We become the combined average of the 5 people we spend the majority of our time with.

What does your circle say about you?

If your circle is made up of people who put you down, make you feel bad, insecure or are judgemental of others, it’s time to distance yourself.

Surround yourself instead with people who are happy, genuinely positive and who are where you want to be in life.

As best-selling Author, Darren Hardy says, “Courage is feeling the fear but doing it anyway!”

 

Using Mindfulness to Overcome Limiting Beliefs 

In addition to meditation and positive affirmation, being more mindful of your thoughts can help you to overcome limiting beliefs.

Taking the time to pay attention to what is going on inside in your head will give you the chance to confront your negative beliefs.

That way you can pull yourself up on that inner dialogue that puts you down when you’re faced with hard times – be it rejection, failure, self worth etc.

If you’re wanting to overcome your limiting beliefs, becoming more mindful of your thoughts is a good place to start.

 

A Simple Way to be More Mindful

If you need some help overcoming your negative thoughts or beliefs, ensure to snap up your copy of the Mindfully Happy Handbook!

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In this 20+ page handbook, I introduce you to the simple but powerful principles of mindfulness, gratitude, positive mindset and mindfulness meditation.

I highlight how these natural activities have helped me to gain a much greater control over my mind, negative beliefs and anxiety.

Take the first step towards being a happier you.

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The Power of Gratitude for Greater Health & Happiness

The Power of Gratitude for Greater Health & Happiness

Did you know that expressing gratitude for what we have in our lives has a significant impact on our overall health and happiness?

Sounds like rocket science, right? NOT!

But truly, it’s crazy how many of us forget to express gratitude each day, especially for the things that we are fortunate to have in our lives.

I guess, it’s probably because they’re no longer a novelty. Things like our family, our friends, our health, our houses our education or even our pets.

We have also become so focused on being busy, and on all the things we don’t have yet. This causes us to feel stressed and overlook all the amazingly wonderful things we do have. 

Whether it’s wanting more money, travelling somewhere new, a new job, cooler friends, a new car, a bigger house, etc… the list goes on.

Our brains have become wired to notice and remember the things that are wrong in our lives.

It’s a survival mechanism, that once served to protect us (back in our cavemen days). But, now has less significant importance only causing us additional stress, pain, suffering and unhappiness.

This is why it is important to train our brains to focus on positivity and gratitude.

 

 

What is Gratitude?

Being “positive” doesn’t mean walking around whistling, wide-eyed and smiling like a clown…. especially when you’re feeling lousy on the inside.

That’s just fakery and is not going to help you by any means.

It’s also not about ignoring your reality or pretending that things are wonderful when they’re not.

To express gratitude you need to flip your natural urges on their head (Eg. focusing on the negative) and instead, choose to focus on all the amazing things you have already in your life.

Say thank you for:

  • The company of your family and friends each and every day
  • Having a steady job to earn an income (Many people around the world don’t have this luxury)
  • Access to hygienic food and fresh water (Consider the poverty of 3rd world countries)
  • A secure roof over your head
  • The freedom of a car for independence
  • Having a comfortable bed to sleep in at night (Many are homeless & don’t have this luxury)

You get the idea.

There are SO MANY things to be grateful for!

This is why it is important to take a moment out of your day (even just 5 minutes) to list out and appreciate all the amazing things you have already achieved up until this point.

 

The Benefits of Expressing Gratitude

Dwelling on negative things fuels unhappiness, depression and anxiety whereas teaching yourself to notice, appreciate and anticipate goodness can be a significant happiness booster.

Research has shown that gratitude helps you to:

  • Experience more positive emotions
  • Decrease depression
  • Become more aware of the abundance in your life
  • Feel better about yourself on the inside
  • Improve your relationships, and
  • Strengthen your immune system.

According to HelpGuide.org, a recent study even revealed that gratitude can make you smarter with how you spend your money. Well, that’s pretty awesome, hey!

 

How to Express Gratitude

1. Give Sincere Thanks to Others in the Moment

When someone goes above and beyond for you or does something to make your day easier, ensure to say a hearty “Thanks!”

It doesn’t have to be anything crazy or over the top, just be quick to verbalise your thanks and appreciation.

Not only will it make the other person feel good, but it will also give your happiness a boost.

Give it a try and see how you feel!

*P.S> Watch this Video*

I love the video below. I almost listen to it every day as part of my morning routine because it reminds me of all the things to be thankful for.

You go Denzel Washington!

It gets me feeling all passionate, motivated and emotional every time….

Maybe it will have a similar impact on you?

2. Keep a Gratitude Journal

Rather than focusing on all the negatives of your day, take a moment to write down all the good things that happened.

Writing down what you’re grateful has been proven to help you feel happier, more connected to others and genuinely appreciative.

It also helps to bring to light small things that may have happened during your day that you overlooked at the time.

To be completely honest, I personally haven’t created a gratitude journal myself, but others do claim that it works for them.

I find that physically recording myself repeating a list of what I’m grateful for and then replaying it to myself each morning is also a really awesome way to do this.

Give both a go and see what you think works best for you.

 

3. Shift Your Mindset – Look for the Positive

Despite it hurting at the time, even the most painful events from our past can teach us positive lessons for the future.

Rather than dwelling on how sh*t something was, focus on what you learned and how it made you a stronger, wiser or more compassionate person now.

If you struggle with dwelling on the negative in life, check out our steps on how to Overcome Limiting Beliefs in 4 Simple Steps.

This would be a great next step for you!

How to express gratitude through meditation

4. Express Gratitude Through Meditation

I love taking a moment in my morning to reflect on all the amazing things in my life.

Mindfulness Meditation is the technique I use to express gratitude daily.

Meditation is great because it helps you build a habit of expressing gratitude and can help to calm the mind, promote relaxation and improve focus during your day. It also has many scientifically proven health benefits in addition to boosting health and happiness.

If you’d like to learn more expressing gratitude through meditation, a great place to start is with our Mindfully Happy Handbook.

Get your copy of the Mindfully Happy Handbook today and learn how to live a happier, healthier and more fulfilled life through:

  • Mindfulness
  • Meditation
  • Gratitude
  • Building a Positive Mindset &
  • Overcoming Limiting Beliefs that hold you back from achieving your true potential.

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