Although all of us want to live a healthy and happy life, it’s seems almost rare to find people who are entirely happy, healthy and fulfilled in their current lives.
Especially in western culture anyway….
It seems like so many of us are struggling to find the true happiness we seek in life, leaving us feeling incomplete, unhappy, stressed, unfulfilled and anxious.
But why is it that we struggle so much?
Well, personally I believe it has something to do with being taught to seek happiness from sources outside of us, rather than looking within.
Rather than creating the lives we want for ourselves, we focus our attention on things that don’t actually bring us happiness and prioritise activities that give us short term gratification or are self-sabotaging.
- Working in a job you hate because it pays good money
- Focusing on money and material possessions to validate your self-worth
- Binge watching TV or eating sh** because it feels good at the time
- Not feeling happy or confident in our bodies because we’re fatter than the “normal” person
- Not going to gym because it’s easier or you can’t be bothered
- Not doing what you love or hobbies that light you up because you have “no time” or are “too busy”
- Spending your time on low priority and trivial things which don’t add value to your future
Yep, I’m sure each of us can relate to at least one of the above points.
The tricky part is that this behaviour is a part of our DNA…
Back in the day, instant gratification would almost guarantee our survival and made us happy. But that’s because we weren’t living as long as we do today.
So what can we do to combat this?
To live a healthy and happy life, here are 12 simple tips and activities you can incorporate into your week.
They will help you to truly become a happier and healthier you.
1) Mindset & Mental Health
Our mindset is one of the greatest contributors to our overall and long-term happiness and whether you’re able to build a happy life that you love.
Your mental health is greatly influenced by your mindset – ie. whether you often see yourself as a victim, always dwell on the negative or seek out the positive in all situations.
In most cases, our mindset is built upon subconscious internal beliefs. These ingrained beliefs have typically been imprinted into our minds from a young age by those around us – our parents, teachers and even our friends.
The problem is that most of us are completely unaware of the beliefs we have installed.
And you’ll never really know until you take a moment to reflect and tune into your body.
Meditation is a great way to do this and can help you identify any limiting beliefs that are holding your back from your true potential. Whether it’s beliefs about money, beliefs about yourself or beliefs about others.
If you want to live a healthy and happy life, you must uproot these negative beliefs and replace them with constructive positive beliefs. I teach you how to do this in the Journey to Happiness course.
(I’ll touch more on the course shortly, in case it’s something you’re interested in checking out.)
2) Managing Stress and Anxiety for a Happy Life
In today’s age, chronic stress is almost becoming the norm…
So many of us are used to running around like headless chickens, stressed out of our minds and having way too much on our plates to handle each day.
Whether it be working in a very demanding job, trying to manage household duties whilst growing a family, making time for study or even stress from imposed social norms and expectations.
The problem is that there are so many negative impacts of stress on our bodies.
For starters, chronic stress can impact our mental health, emotional health and physiological health. Which is the exact reason why it’s important to nip stress in the bud, rather than ignoring your symptoms.
Some techniques and activities that can be helpful for stress relief include:
- Deep Breathing
- using natural remedies for stress relief
- Regular exercise
- Monitoring intakes of alcohol, caffeine and sugar
- Getting out in nature
- Playing with pets
- Catching up with a friend
- Making time for cuddles with your partner
All of these techniques can help you manage stress and anxiety
3) Set Personal Boundaries
Whether at work or home, it is so critical to set personal boundaries. If you want to live life on your terms, you need to determine what your limits are.
And trust me, regardless of what you think, everyone has a limit!
Especially when it comes to saying no, having enough time in your day, patience, emotional tolerance or even money.
It is so important, to set expectations on what you will do and will not do. Not only in terms of morals and ethics, but also in terms of your workload.
You’re not doing yourself any favours by continuing to say yes to everyone because you:
- Are a people-pleaser
- Fear not being liked
- Worry that people will get upset with you
- Wonder whether your colleagues will think that you “can’t handle it”
Being able to say no, is not a weakness. It is a strength!
And I know because I used to be one of the biggest people-pleasers out there!! AND I was miserable…
So what’s the key takeaways…
- If someone is constantly delegating you work and it’s too much to handle, speak up and say no!
- If you have other priorities you’re working on and someone keeps trying to bump ahead of the queue, say no.
- Through good communication with your peers, family etc, saying no doesn’t have to be a bad thing or hurt anyone’s feelings. Instead you are protecting yourself whilst also ensuring that you can follow through on your promises and attend to your greatest priorities
The truth I stand by is “If you can’t respond with a heck yeah!, it’s ok to say no.”
4) Meditate Regularly to Build a Happy Life
As mentioned earlier, meditation is an amazing and natural way to boost your happiness and mental health by allowing you to tune into your body.
In addition to stress relief, there are many known benefits of meditation. This is why it can be a great exercise to add into your daily routine, even if it is just for 5-10 minutes a day.
If you’d like to learn more about meditation you can check out this step-by step guide.
Alternatively you can also enter your details below to get started with our FREE mini Meditation Course for Beginners.
5) Eat a Nutrient Rich & Healthy Diet
Now this tip is not rocket science….
Most of us know that to be healthy, eating a good diet is pretty critical. BUT, often even those who think that they are “eating healthy” are not getting enough nutrition into their bodies.
The truth is that foods aren’t as nutritious as they used to be.
Especially given many whole foods such as fruits and vegetables, are picked prematurely and ripened artificially to satisfy the large demands of a growing population.
Some foods now even contain or have been sprayed with pesticides and toxins which can cause havoc in our bodies over time.
Unless you eat local, home-grown or organic produce, this can be really hard to avoid.
You can read about how I use a whole food diet to maximise the nutrition I put into my body, for optimal health and performance.
In that article, I also refer to a natural whole food supplement I take to help fill the gap between the nutrition my body is getting from my food, versus what it actually needs for optimum health and performance.
A whole food supplement can be a great option if you’re busy, don’t have a lot of time or don’t want to constantly think about what you’re putting into your body.
You can read more about the whole food supplement I use here.
6) Exercise Regularly for Your Health
Exercising regularly can be an important way to relieve stress as it can help to rid our bodies of “stress” energy.
But the key is to find a type of exercise that you enjoy, rather than exercising just because you feel that you have to.
As soon as you make exercise a chore, you’re going to find yourself procrastinating and self-sabotaging. You’re also unlikely to build a stable and consistent routine – which can negatively impact your health in the long term.
Our bodies are MADE to move… not to stay seated at an office desk. So, not exercising is actually doing your body a disservice.
Think about what you can do that moves your body and that you love, so you don’t have to think about exercising it just naturally happens.
Here are some examples to get you thinking:
- Team sports (eg. Basketball, Tennis, Athletics, etc)
- Canoeing / Kayaking
- Martial Arts / Boxing
There are so many options to choose from to add some exercise during your week. Find something you love and stick to it!
7) Build Positive Relationships
Although the following quote is heavily used, I still wholeheartedly believe it to be true….“You become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
So the question you must ask yourself is “Who do you hang out with on a regular basis?”
Are you spending your time with dead beats, drop kicks, nasty or bitchy people, judgemental people or those who make you feel bad about yourself?
If so, it’s time to make some cuts…
Don’t waste your time nurturing relationships with people who don’t give you the same in return, or aren’t encouraging you to be the person you want to be.
I have learned from this first-hand….
But remaining friends with people because it’s convenient or because you’ve known them since childhood is not a good enough excuse if they continue to make you feel bad about yourself.
Instead, aim to surround yourself with people who:
- Light you up,
- Share similar interests
- Look for the positive in life
- Support you and
- Encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
8) Express Gratitude
Although most of us have goals that we’re working towards, it’s important to take time to reflect on all the current or previous things you have achieved or experienced and are grateful for.
Examples may include your family, owning a house, getting an education, having a job, having all senses and limbs intact, etc.
We often overlook the things that become a norm in our lives, but often they are they things we should cherish most.
Rather than constantly focusing on the future or dwelling on the past, allow yourself to stop and smell the roses. Think about all the things that you are grateful in your life and that make you the person you are today.
Showing gratitude and appreciation each day, even for just a few minutes, has been scientifically proven to boost happiness and contentment in life.
9) Allow Time to Unwind
To live a happy and healthy life, you must make time for the things you love and set aside downtime to relax your body and unwind.
A nice little trick to help you do this is to schedule a few activities that you love to do during your week in your calendar / diary FIRST!
As an example, a couple of things that I strive to do each week to fill my cup up are:
- Make time for exercise 4 times a week
- I go to the sauna and for a swim on Thursday evenings
- I meditate each morning before work for 20-30 minutes
- Wednesday night is date night and we go dancing together
If you’re currently overwhelmed and truly think you have no time for yourself, I recommend starting with even just ONE thing you can do during your week that makes you feel good.
Our bodies need a break.
We’re not made to continuously function at a heightened or stressed state without burning out. So, do yourself a favour, and make down time a priority.
10) Get Enough Sleep
I can’t stress enough how important sleep is for our overall happiness and health.
Although the general recommendation is to strive for 7-9 hours of sleep, sleep needs can vary from person to person.
Some people can perform optimally on 5-6 hours of sleep, whereas others may need more than 9 hours to feel refreshed.
I personally strive to get a minimum of 6-8 hours each night, otherwise I notice that I just can’t focus as well as I normally do. I’m also not as productive, get headaches and my eyes become strained and heavy.
If getting more sleep is an area you need to improve in, I suggest striving to get 7-9 hours of sleep and experiment with different lengths of sleep to see what works best for your body.
If you struggle with getting to sleep, or getting enough sleep due to waking up or insomnia, I suggest that you consult with your doctor with some tips & tricks that could help you.
11) Reduce Time on Social Media
If you want to live a happy and healthy life, stop spending so much time on social media.
Probably not a surprise for some of you but social media can be extremely detrimental to your mental health and happiness, especially when over-consumed.
When over-used, social media can cause us to doubt ourselves and our self-worth.
This constant comparison game can cause lowered self-confidence and esteem, unhappiness and a whole spectrum of other negative emotions.
You must remember that social media is literally a filtered highlight reel of people’s greatest moments in life. Therefore, you’re not seeing the complete picture of what is actually going on behind the scenes.
I’ve had it myself where someone I was connected to (who always seemed to have their life together, had lots of friends and posted regularly about the good things in life) disclosed that they were actually suffering from depression and a gambling addiction.
I had no idea!!
The key message: be careful and avoid comparing yourself to others on social media. The life you see online is not usually the same as what is often going on behind the scenes.
12) Create a Morning Routine That Makes You Feel Awesome!
The final tip to live a happy and healthy life, is to build a morning routine that you love and fills your cup up.
Having a solid morning routine can give you more time to focus on the things you love and can help you to:
- Take control back over your day
- Train your mind to focus on the positive appreciate the small things
- Start your day with something productive rather than waking up feeling lazy or drowsy due to snoozing your alarm
- Get yourself into momentum for the day
- Fill your cup up with things you love so you don’t feel deprived during the week
- Fuel your mind with positivity
- Affirm your vision, goals and beliefs
- Grow into a bigger and better version of yourself because you are continuously evolving
- Make progress towards your goals
- Learn a new skill
- Plan your day in advance so you can be proactive, rather than being reactive.
- Enjoy and appreciate the present moment, rather than focusing on the day ahead
When building a morning routine, you should aim to create a routine that works in with your lifestyle and that you’re going to enjoy.
How to Create a Morning Routine to Live a Healthy & Happy Life Long Term
If you’d like some help and guidance to create your own morning routine, definitely take a look at the Journey to Happiness course.
In this 21-day course you will learn:
- How anxiety & chronic stress impact our health and stress relieving activities you can do to combat it
- About natural remedies you can add into your weekly routine for stress relief
- How to create your dream life and Identify areas of improvement
- About the science behind what makes people truly happy from the inside out
- How to create a meaningful vision board that can help to motivate you and keep you on track towards achieving your biggest goals
- About Holistic health and why having a healthy mind, body and soul is critical for overall health & happiness
- How to build a positive and unshakeable mindset by overcoming limiting beliefs and using positive affirmations, gratitude and mindfulness.
- About the importance of self-care and some easy things you can do during your week to feel happier and fill your cup up
- About Meditation and why it can be beneficial for overall health, happiness and productivity
- Gain insight into whole foods and how much sleep, exercise and water you should be having/doing each day.
- How to build a killer morning routine in 21 days to improve health, happiness, life satisfaction and productivity.
If you’re not quite ready to jump into the course, you can download the FREE Journey to Happiness Checklist here for a bit of a taste and to get you started.
This checklist gives you a summary of “what” to do to build an amazing morning routine, however in the complete course I teach you the “how”.
If you want to live a happy and healthy life, this is a great place to start!
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