Why is it that so many of us struggle with finding true Happiness?
Regardless of the many wonders and joys in the world or even the things in our lives that are well and amazing, many of us trudge through our daily lives unfulfilled, sad and dissatisfied.
We all want to find happiness….
But it’s so easy for us to feel unhappy with ourselves, unhappy with those around us, unhappy with the jobs we have, dissatisfied with the direction of our lives and are always left wanting more.
I know for me, unhappiness is usually a result of focusing on the wrong things and measuring my self-worth against others or material possessions that have no relevance to my value as a person.
Maybe you’re doing something similar?
Based on my experience, I was unhappiest when I was:
- Working long hours in a job tI didn’t enjoy
- Forfeiting my health for money
- Time-poor and too busy to invest time in the things I truly loved
- Spending my money on things that had little value or return, and
- Taking key relationships for granted
But it wasn’t really my fault. After all, that’s kind of what I was “taught” to do by people around me – colleagues, family, friends etc.
Unfortunately, from a young age we’re all imprinted to strive for what society defines as “success” and “happiness” in life.
We’re taught to chase money, wealth, fame, power, good looks and spend a lot of our time following other people’s lives on social media or TV, rather than living our own.
But what if the system’s wrong?
The problem with all of these things is that none of them will make you happy on the inside, not in the long-term anyway.
I can tell you from first hand…
Large sums of cash in your bank account and a busy job DOES NOT = Happiness.
If you don’t know much about my turbulent story – here’s where you can get up to speed.
Truly, a faster car, a bigger house, a pair of Gucci sunglasses, a promotion or even travelling the world, isn’t going to make you a happier person.
Happiness comes from within and starts, first and foremost, with YOU.
here’s 10 simple steps to help you bring more happiness into your life.
P.S> If you’re more of a visual learner, you can check out what I cover in this article in the video below.
10 Simple Tips to Help You Find Greater Happiness in Life:
1) Be an Optimist
Find the good in every situation.
To live a life of happiness, it is key to see every experience as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Even if it was unpleasant or frustrating at the time…
Express gratitude. Appreciate all the amazing things and people you have in your life, the job you have, the house you live in, the food on your plate and the comfortable bed you’ll sleep in tonight.
Regardless of your situation, there’s always someone who’s worse off than you, and who’d dream to live even ONE DAY in your shoes.
Given the overwhelming number of people living in poverty every day, take a moment to pause, take a breath and smile. Trust me, you’re doing just fine. All will be ok.
2) Live with Meaning
Find your life’s purpose.
Those who truly find happiness in their lives know their skills and their strengths.
They deliberately build their lives around activities which allow them to use these skills, and for the greater good.
Consider your strengths and the activities that make you truly happy.
And by happy… I mean warm, lit up and beaming from the inside out!
For example, do you love:
- Helping others?
- Going on hikes in nature?
- Being creative?
- Seeking new adventures?
It can be a massive happiness booster to add some of these activities into your weekly routine.
Schedule time in your diary for your passions. Even if it’s just for 30 minutes a week.
Seeing gradual progress towards these achievements will be intrinsically rewarding and is a key factor in finding true happiness.
It also gives you greater purpose and direction in your life which will make you feel awesome.
3) Never Stop Learning
Maintain an open mind.
In life, there’s no such thing as being too educated, too wise, too kind, too loving or too travelled.
As humans, we are fluid and adaptive beings. We love to evolve and grow from newly acquired knowledge and experiences.
That is why you must use each day to learn something new and STOP playing everything so safe!
Yes, I know…
Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be scary. But once you do it, you will feel a new sense of empowerment unlike anything else you’ve experienced before.
Find new ways to challenge yourself, take risks and step outside of your comfort zones.
Learn from mistakes and failures and embrace new experiences and opportunities.
Seeing progress towards our goals or even growth within ourselves, are some of the greatest sources of true happiness.
4) Live in the Now
Stop to smell the roses.
Many become so tunnel-focused on achieving future goals that they forget to embrace and appreciate the now. I myself, I have been guilty of this.
Take time out of your day, every day, to appreciate your surroundings.
It could be as simple as:
- Taking a moment to notice the vastness of the blue sky above you
- Smelling the fresh scents of your neighbours flower garden
- Listening to the sounds of birds chirping in the trees
- Observing the diversity of people’s fashion as they pass you on the street, or
- Listening to your favourite song one more time
- Admiring the size of city skyscrapers as you commute to work.
If you don’t take a moment to stop and live in the moment, you’ll miss all the small things that make life so great.
Make the most of each day, every day. This will help you to find happiness, even from the small inconsequential things.
Here’s 5 simple ways you can be more mindful during your day.
5) Find Happiness Through Meditation & Mindfulness
During your week, it’s important to take a moment to clear your mind.
Meditation is a great way to bring your focus back to the present.
When you focus on the present moment, you are much more likely to feel centred, happy and at peace. Meditation and mindfulness can help you with this.
And no, you don’t need to be a “pretzeled” yogi or a Buddhist monk to reap the health benefits of meditation. Anyone can engage in meditation exercises… even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes each morning.
When practiced regularly, meditation can help to reduce negative thoughts, anxiety, stress and depression and increase feelings of peace, calmness and serenity.
If you’ve heard about meditation and are curious to learn more about it, sign up for our Free introductory meditation e-course below.
6) Be Kind to Others & Yourself
This one is pretty simple. Just be nice!
You don’t have to be an angel or saint 100% of the time. Just be more respectful and kind to those around you.
Doing nice things for people can trigger feelings of happiness by making us feel warm and fuzzy due to the natural dopamine (happiness hormone) release we get from doing so.
Volunteer your time, help others and be giving.
They may not always return the favour or physically show their appreciation, but you’ll reap rewards in the long run, even if it’s just good Karma.
7) Nurture Your Body Properly
Your body is your temple and you only get one.
Instead of treating your body like a rubbish bin, fuel it with nutritious and healthy whole foods.
Engage in regular exercise (even if it’s just a 30-minute walk on your lunch break) and strive to get the 7-9 hours of sleep that your body needs for optimum performance.
This will make you feel good on the inside and look great on the outside.
When you feel run down or sick, give you body a chance to rest, repair and recharge. Even if it means not getting that one last task done and ticked off your to do list.
Self care is so critical, especially if you’re a high-achiever and tend to push yourself to burn out.
8) Appreciate You for You
Learn to love yourself as you are.
Each of us has our own quirks and insecurities. It’s how you manage and respond to these insecurities that will determine whether you thrive or self-destruct over time.
You have 3 options. You can either:
- Choose to hate yourself or that part of your body; putting yourself down each time you look in the mirror over something you cannot change.
- Take action to make a change. If you’re overweight, go to the gym and start eating properly.
- Accept it and move on. Identify all the other characteristics that you love about yourself. Maybe you have great hair? A killer smile? A kind and loving heart? A natural wisdom about the world?
We’re all different and have unique features and personalities. Embrace it!
Accept yourself as you are – flaws and all.
Be grateful for what you do have rather than stressing about the things you don’t.
No one is perfect – so why are you trying so hard to be?
9) Cherish Your Relationships
Relationships are one of the biggest sources of happiness in our lives.
Yet in our busy society, we become so easily caught up with other responsibilities that we neglect those around us.
In the pursuit of money, fame and fortune many of us overlook the needs of our family and friendships. If managed poorly it can lead you to a very depressing place.
To be happy, you must focus on surrounding yourself with a supportive circle of family and friends, a loving relationship and a thriving social life.
Cultivate and build connections (no, not through Instagram or Facebook), but actually in person.
By doing so, you will experience greater levels of joy, attract higher quality relationships into your life and satisfy your sense of belonging.
Rid yourself of pessimists or gossipers.
Disconnect from people in your life who make you feel bad, unworthy or unconfident.
Instead, make a conscious effort to spend quality time with happy people, family and friends who make you feel good, support and encourage you and take delight in your good fortunes.
In return, offer them the same.
10) Be Resilient
Learn and grow in the face of challenge.
When you get smacked down in life, remember…. life is a rollercoaster.
Don’t let it get you down.
Instead, rise up from failure, take on new challenges and adapt readily to change.
Stop taking things so seriously (as I used to). The truth is that you can’t control everything or have your way all the time (even though I used to wish we could).
Sometimes, life can push you down a different path which can be scary, or even exhilarating.
So ease up tiger!
Let your hair down every now and again and enjoy the ride. All will work out in the end.
For me, these 10 things have had a significant impact on my life.
I hope for your sake, that they have helped trigger even just ONE NEW IDEA on how you could do something differently. ONE SMALL THING you could change in your life to be a happier and healthier you.
If you need help with creating a life you love and that lights you up every day, I can help!
We’ve designed a course to specifically help you to become a happier and healthier you in 21 days.
You’ll learn how to improve all aspects of your life (physical, emotional and mental health) and how you spend your time.
I’ll teach you a simple routine to maximise results each day, so you can make progress towards your biggest goals and start you day with the things you love and that make you feel amazing (rather than forcing yourself out of bed each morning).
Inside the Journey to Happiness course you’ll learn…
- How anxiety & chronic stress impact our health and stress relieving activities you can do to combat it
- About natural remedies you can add into your weekly routine for stress relief
- How to create your dream life and Identify areas of improvement
- About the science behind what makes people truly happy from the inside out
- How to create a meaningful vision board that can help to motivate you and keep you on track towards achieving your biggest goals
- About the importance of self-care and some easy things you can do during your week to feel happier and fill your cup up
- How to build a positive and unshakeable mindset by overcoming limiting beliefs and using positive affirmations, gratitude and mindfulness.
- About Meditation and why it can be beneficial for overall health, happiness and productivity
- What Holistic health is and why having a healthy mind, body and soul is critical for overall health & happiness
- Gain insight into whole foods and how much sleep, exercise and water you should be having/doing each day.
- How to build a killer morning routine in 21 days to improve health, happiness, life satisfaction and productivity.
If you’re not ready to jump into the complete course right now, get started with our FREE Journey to Happiness Checklist.
With the checklist, you won’t receive as much value or guidance compared to the course, however it will give you insight into a list of activities you can do each day to live a happier and healthier life.
Think of it as a mini small sneak peak inside what is covered in detail in the Journey to Happiness course.
Enter your details below to get sent your free Journey to Happiness Checklist:
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